Ditch the diaper ... in three days
The program (in summary) of the English super nanny Kathryn Mewes (taken from the book Three days are enough, Vallardi)
When you teach the child something new, like precisely get him used to using the potty, it is important that you are "relaxed, calm and consistent". Also you have to be certain that the baby is ready to remove the diaper and have confidence in his ability to learn. If you express doubts, you will cause the child to doubt himself.
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If you are looking for a 'program' to get your baby out of the nappy, you could try that of Kathryn Mewes, a well-known and highly paid British child care nurse ...
In this article
- The right time to remove the diaper
- Dos and don'ts for removing the diaper
- First day
- Second day
- Third day
The right time to remove the diaper
Il right time to remove the diaper is between two and a half and three and a half years. In general, situations can vary from child to child: the right period is between two and a half years and three and a half years.
Around the age of two and a half, keep a record of how many times your child pees. If you change his diaper every hour and a half to two and find that he is sometimes dry that means began to check his bladder: the first step to abandoning the diaper. Take note for three days, if you find it dry several times, it means you can start the goodbye diaper program. Other useful signs are: he wants me to change his nappy as soon as he gets dirty, when he does his needs he says (or announces his intention), he takes off his nappy as soon as he can, he is happy to talk about the use of the potty and leafs through books about it.
When you think it's time to move on, you can start talking about the potty.
It is not necessary to buy it immediately, it can be done with the help of booklets that explain how the transition from diaper to potty takes place.
At that point, if you have not already done so, abandon all modesty and let the child accompany you to the bathroom, telling him in detail what you do until you wash your hands. Important: Make sure he is careful what you do. If the child doesn't want to accompany you to the bathroom, don't insist.
Are you ready for the next step? Good. Seriously explain to the child that you will remove his diaper when he is playing around the house or in the garden and that when he wants to pee or poop he will sit on the potty that you will buy together. If the child clearly says no or resists, leave him alone and don't talk about the topic again for three to four weeks. If, on the other hand, he seems to agree, read a booklet on the subject together. You might also look together on the Internet for potties you might buy. The child must immediately learn that after peeing you have to wash your hands, it could also be useful to buy a step near the sink.
Watch also the video of the Doctor Maria Pia Guarnieri his "When is the right time to remove the diaper?"
Dos and don'ts for removing the diaper
Things to do:
- keep calm and smile a lot
- allow the child to accompany you to the bathroom
- make him drink often
- allow him to walk around naked from the waist down when you are at home
- put on his pants with the elastic when you go out
- physically express praise with kisses and caresses
- sincerely believe that the child will be able to cope
- write down the time when he usually goes to the toilet
- use both toilet / potty before leaving and when returning
- remember that accidents are unwanted
- interrupt the program if the baby is not ready
Things not to do:
- show frustration
- insist on the subject
- tell the child "everyone we know no longer wears a diaper"
- keep telling him "you're a big baby, you shouldn't have a diaper anymore"
- persistently ask him "do you want to pee?"
- express disappointment in the event of an accident
- grimacing in disgust when you empty the potty
- overdo it with praise
- continue the program if the child is not psychologically ready
What you need to remove the diaper
Here the real program can start. The supertata says you will need:
several pairs of shorts with elastic and a long shirt;
no important appointment for three days
fun cups and bottles to encourage the baby to drink
calm and serenity.
Of course, the baby must be well and you must be able to spend the whole day with him.4 PHOTOS
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The morning you decide to say goodbye to the diaper, sit with the child and read a booklet together on the subject. During breakfast then you should start talking to him about buying the potty and where to put it. Then go out and go to the shop. At this stage the baby will still have the diaper. If the child is three years old, you may already opt for the reducer. Also buy a dozen panties.
When you get home, take off the nappy and let the baby circulate in a slightly long shirt. Arrange the potty (or potties) and put a booklet or a toy next to it. Keep them there, they will serve to distract him.
The nanny also recommends 'visual aids'. For example, decorate a jar and every time the child does his or her needs in the potty, put a pebble in it. Or you could take a sign with the stickers, every time he hits the target have him stick a sticker.
Let the child play and while he plays give him something to drink, the container must be fun to encourage him to do so. When he has been playing for about fifteen minutes, remind him where the potty is. Then ask him, "Where do you pee if it escapes?" When she replies, praise him: "Bravo!" It is useful to keep an eye on the schedules to understand how often the child needs to pee.
It is easy for the first attempts to fail. What to do? The nanny advises that you go directly to the 'willy' or 'fries' like "Listen to me, pea / fries. You were great at peeing without a diaper. Next time you can ask ... to take you to potty? " She then she pretends to have got an answer and she replies: "Okay, thank you so much willy / potato".
Cleaning must take place quickly, quietly and without involving the child.
Before lunch, it's a good idea to go to the bathroom together. "I always have to pee before lunch and dinner. Let's do it together, then wash our hands and go eat." Encourage the child to sit on the potty while you are sitting on the toilet. After three to four minutes, then wash your hands and go eat.
After lunch, keep an eye on him to see if he is straining to pass body. It is common for children to pass body after lunch if they have not done so in the morning. If you know he wants to tell him, "I think you need to poop. Let's go sit on the potty and read a story." Leave the baby alone and quiet. If the child gets up from the potty or calls you to go on with the story, he or she is not ready. Forget it.
Hurray did it!
Celebrate the child but do not overdo or embarrass him.
If the baby is still having an afternoon nap, you decide whether to put him to bed with the 'sleeping nappy' (you must be clear on this point with him too) or whether to put him to sleep without. It depends on what results you got in the morning ... If you have put on the diaper, take it off when the baby wakes up.
If you wake the baby and the diaper / bed is dry, praise him and reward him with a pebble or a sticker. By the time there are three dry naps, the baby will have made great progress. After bed, take him to the bathroom and sit on the toilet while he is sitting on the potty. So start introducing the habit: after bedtime you go to the bathroom.
If you go out to the garden in the afternoon, according to the English child care nurse, you should take the potty with you and put it behind a tree. If he's wearing it, ask him as you change him, "Did you feel the pee coming when she wet your panties?" Wait for the answer and then say, "Next time think about it, please. Now let's get back to playing. I love you so much."
If he comes home dry, have him sit on the potty while you empty his bag or make dinner.
Before dinner, follow the same procedure as for lunch.
Then follow the usual evening ritual, for example toothbrushing, pajamas, a little TV and reading a fairy tale. It is a moment of relaxation when you may want to pee. Keep the potty close at hand.
And when it's bedtime, tell the baby that all people sit on the potty or the toilet before going to bed. say goodnight to the last pee of the day. This also serves to establish a habit.
Remember to end the day with an incentive and a reward: put a pebble or two in the jar for the results achieved during the day.
So take the baby to bed, the last thing to do before saying goodnight is to put the nappy on. In fact, the transition must be gradual: first you need to acquire autonomy during the day and then think about the night.
And now it's time to take stock of the first day: if the baby is very upset or upset or has cried a lot, consider whether to continue the program or leave it alone for a month.Read also: How to remove the diaper, 8 SUPER easy tips to be successful
When the baby wakes up, remove the baby's 'nappy nappy' and wait five minutes before inviting him to use the potty as he may still be sleepy. Then invite him to sit on the potty: is another habit that is introduced. The day starts with peeing!
Then get ready for another day indoors with the baby naked from the waist down.
At breakfast, remind him to tell the weasel that he will have to pee in the potty a lot.
While playing at home if you notice that he needs a potty, accompany him to the potty with the booklet or a game. In the event of an accident, just clean up without a fuss. You could just say, "Can you try to get to the potty next time, govanotto?"
Repeat the procedure of the previous day. If you have identified the moment in which the child goes to the body, you can point it out to him and you become aware of it. "I think your body likes to poop every day after dinner / lunch / breakfast. We need to remember that and sit on the potty at that time."
Before going to bed, the last visit to the potty. Praise him for the efforts made during the day and reward him with the pebble. The last thing to do before hugging him and kissing her goodnight is to put his nappy on.
Once again take stock of the day and decide whether to continue with the program.Read also: Goodbye to the diaper
The potty should be part of everyday life at this point. The day should go something like this:
- 7-8: wake up, off the diaper and potty within five minutes.
- 8,30-9: hand washing and breakfast.
- 9-9,30: it's time to get dressed and brush your teeth.
- 9,30-13: activities at home or walk. After an hour and a half or two, remind the child if he needs a potty.
- 13-13,30: make him sit on the potty before lunch and wash your hands.
- 14-15,15: invite him to sit on the potty before the afternoon nap. Before going to sleep, put the diaper on. Nanna for an hour and a quarter.
- 15,15-15,45: wake up the baby and remove the diaper. Have him sit on the potty and leave him for three to four minutes.
- 16-18: afternoon exit. Potty before going out and returning home.
- 18,30-19: wash your hands and have dinner. Tell the child how proud you are of him. After dinner, play quietly.
- 19,30: potty and baby bath.
- 20-20,30: fairy tales or TV, then potty before bed.
- From 20,30 pm: brush your teeth, last visit to the potty before bedtime. Put the nappy back on the night just before saying goodnight. Remember to put the pebble in the jar.
At this point, take stock of the day again and you can continue the path established with the habits given in the first three days. Remember: the child still needs guidance and it will take time before he does it all by himself. But that day will come soon ... so patience!
Daily plan of regular visits to the potty / reducer
- Good morning: five minutes after taking off his diaper
- Before breakfast: only if you did not use it the first time you sat on the potty
- Mid morning: an hour and a half to two after the last pee
- Before lunch: sit on the potty and then wash your hands
- Before the nap: put on the nappy of the bed
- Upon awakening: remove the nappy within five minutes
- Before the afternoon out: in the bathroom together
- Back home: time when he often needs to use the potty
- Before dinner: sit on the potty and then wash your hands
- Before the bath: on the potty while the tub fills up
- Before going to bed: put on the nappy for bedtime
Questions and answers
When can a baby's diaper be removed?
Baby diapers should be removed when the time is right! Generally this moment coincides with 2 years for girls and 3 years for boys. Children need to understand what they need to do when they feel a full bladder.
How to get a child to pee in the potty?
Whenever the child is able to poop or pee on the potty, clap and congratulate him. So, show him what he has "produced" and, together, throw it all in the toilet waving goodbye.
When do you start using the potty?
Generally 18 to 24 months are referred to as the best time to start potty training, but the truth is that the answer can vary for each child, as there are many contributing factors.
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