"In the stork's beak" is the wish that Eleonora Mazzoni makes to all women who are facing the long, often difficult, journey towards motherhood.
You know her face: she has worked in many television dramas, from "Elisa di Rivombrosa" to "Commissario Manara" and trod many theatrical stages.
Perhaps - if you are one of those whose search for a child has been going on for some time - you also know the ironic and never banal pen of Eleonora Mazzoni, who years ago in "The Defective" recounted, in fictional form, "her years in close contact with PMA ”, where PMA stands for medically assisted procreation.
«In becco alla cicogna» is his latest work (it is now published by the Biglia Blu publishing house) and it is a manual to make women feel less lost ("the defective ones like me", she says) who are facing the journey in the universe, so complex, of MAP.
May 7th is the National Fertility Day, May 8 is Mother's Day: today that Eleonora Mazzoni is the mother of two 5-year-old twins, who had after various medically assisted fertilization attempts, we collected her testimony and asked for some advice for couples struggling with the path of the PMA.
“I wish some commonplace about MAP would start to fall apart. I would like people to know that it is not a practice for the rich or for women who decide to have children when they are almost 50, perhaps on a whim. Infertility is an increasingly widespread social disease: in 99% of cases couples aged between 24 and 45 resort to MAP. If it is true that the right to have a child does not exist, there is the right to make the best use of what medicine and science offer to be able to procreate. I would also like to know that the failure rate of medically assisted fertilization is high, both in the homologous case and in the heterologous case: doctors should better prepare couples for this. "
TIP 1: Seek psychological support or a trusted friend
«To couples who have decided to undertake a path of MAP I recommend seeking psychological support or even just a trusted friend to confide in. For me it was useful to keep a diary: I think it is useful to channel the physical difficulty of generating in a creative way. I advise women waiting for the implant to "give birth" to drawings, thoughts, reflections. "
TIP 2: Deepen the relationship with your partner or family
«I tell them not to get lost only between the values of the exams and the routine of the visits, but to take advantage of this period to better deepen the relationship with your partner or with your family of origin.»
TIP 3: the web can help you not feel alone
«The web, the forum, even sites like this are precious tools to understand that we are never alone: we "defective" are many!»
TIP 4: take care of yourself
«To women who are awaiting the outcome of fertilization, that terrible limbo of two weeks during which there is nothing more to do and even science stops waiting to understand if the embryo takes root, I say to welcome the imponderable of life: take advantage of this time to take care of yourself. "
TIP 5: take time to reflect
«To women who have just received a negative result I say: take your time, take a break. Do not immediately eliminate mourning, as it is also a matter of mourning in the case of an embryo that has not taken root. Allow time to reflect, take your life back in hand. And don't forget that it is possible to be profoundly "generative" and not at all "defective" women even without being a mother ».
See also the video: what to do if a child does not arrive
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