Pee in bed, how to deal with the subject with children

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Why is the baby peeing in bed? Nocturnal enuresis is a problem that afflicts many parents, struggling with sheets to change every morning and a phenomenon that touches different family chords. Compared tonocturnal enuresis (or bedwetting), how to talk about it and open a positive debate is the thing that makes the difference. Fundamental to the approach is not avoiding the speech or even ignoring the problem. Understanding not only the physical but also the psychological causes that lead the child who still pees in bed to get up wet and frustrated each morning is important to stop an upward spiral of stress in the bud. In fact, up to six years old it is an absolutely physiological phenomenon: approaching the subject of bedwetting and understanding how to arrive at a solution together is essential to increase the child's self-esteem and make him understand that it is no one's fault, much less him. . 

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Pee in bed, how to talk about it

According to the research "Recent advances in managing and understanding enuresis" which addresses the topic of nocturnal enuresis also from a psychological point of view, the child who pees in bed feels frustrated and immersed in a state of social, psychological and emotional that leads him to create various defensive barriers around himself, even with mum and dad. Parents who have to deal with bedwetting in young and old children - several studies such as the one published in Pediatrics put the spotlight on the same problem but on 15-17 year olds - find themselves having to manage a problem that has many facets psychological more than physical. While the latter are resolved over time and by physiology, perhaps by finding short-term solutions that help the child not need to pee during the night, at first the long wave of repercussions can be felt even at a distance of time. For this reason, an effective communicative approach to tackle the problem when it arises for experts is the solution to block a crescendo of discomfort from which the child can struggle to get out.

Nocturnal enuresis in children, a soft approach to discussing it

Never use the terms of the emotional sphere of shame

Associating the terms of the sphere of shame with bedwetting is not functional to the positive debate that must be created between parent and child. Bedwetting is a stimulus that is difficult to control on a subjective level, while it can be managed from the outside through techniques and tricks to facilitate the child's rest. When we talk about bedwetting we are not talking about guilt: it is something that happens and that can be limited in time or made less intrusive with the help of adults.

It is not a spite

Pissing in bed is not a spite that the child does to the parents. While changing the sheets in the morning can be a crippling routine for the family, slowing down the timing of other more important activities (like getting ready for school), the child doesn't do it on purpose. Opening a debate on the topic without making him feel guilty is essential to leave it open and make the child feel safe in his family.

Help him sleep well

Among the tricks to help the baby sleep well there is also the need to create a sleep routine that accompanies him in a stable rest, without interference. In addition to making him drink less, avoid caffeine and facilitate emptying of the bladder immediately before going to bed, the child must go to sleep in peace. The study "Sleep and Sleepiness in Children with Nocturnal Enuresis" published on the Oxford Academic website highlighted how restful sleep is essential for children suffering from bedwetting. And also how the consequences of this phenomenon affect his day, his mood and school performance. 

  Read also: Child's sleep apnea: how they manifest themselves, why they come, how to intervene

Fonti dell'articolo: Recent advances in managing and understanding enuresis; David M. Fergusson and L. John Horwood, Nocturnal Enuresis and Behavioral Problems in Adolescence: A 15-Year Longitudinal Study; Sleep, Sleep and Sleepiness in Children with Nocturnal Enuresis 

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