Pregnancy, the 10 most embarrassing questions to ask the gynecologist

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Pregnancy is a state of grace and a period of great joys, but not only: it is also a time in which fears and fears arise, and during which some questions are so embarrassing that you do not have the courage to ask them to who you should, that is to the gynecologist.

Especially if it is a doctor who visits the expectant mother for the first time, it is not easy to ask him, for example, "Can I have sex during pregnancy?", Or "Did I gain too much weight?", Or "after the birth. in what condition will I be down there? ". Questions to which then answers, with an article listing the 10 most embarrassing FAQs for pregnant women. (Also read 10 things nobody told you about your life after giving birth)

1. Will I have, shall we say, bowel movements during childbirth?

Mary Rosser, a midwife at Montefiore Medical Center in the Bronx, New York, explains to the American website that childbirth is not a public display. So no woman should worry about going to the body during thrusts. However, the answer is yes, it can happen; if the rectum is positioned below the uterus, pushing applies pressure to that area which then empties. But that's not a problem: the medical and paramedical staff are focused on the baby, not the rest. And the same must be done by mom.

2. After giving birth, in what condition will I be “down there”? Will I remain dilated forever?

No. The vagina is made to widen to make it easier for the baby to come out, but then it returns to its natural size. Of course, if you do Kegel exercises to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, "normalization" is faster. (Read tips on strengthening the pelvic floor)

3. Have I gained too much weight?

This question, according to Rosser, should definitely not embarrass pregnant women. Indeed, the progress of the mother's weight should be discussed in a natural way with the gynecologist, because it is an important indicator of the health of both the woman and the child.

4. I have heard that after giving birth I will no longer have bladder control - is that true?

In fact, bladder control tends to decrease after delivery, and even during pregnancy it becomes more subdued as the delivery date approaches. But normally in a period of one and a half to three months after giving birth, everything returns to normal. Again, Kegel exercises help speed up recovery. Sometimes, however, the problems persist: in this case, you need to talk to the gynecologist. (You may also be interested in: How a woman's body changes after giving birth)

5. My husband is afraid of making love during pregnancy because he is afraid of hurting the baby.

It is a common fear in men, but it is completely unwarranted. Pregnant women should reassure their men, explaining that there is no danger of hurting either the mother or the baby.

6. Why is sex painful after childbirth?

Because giving birth to a baby is a trauma to a woman's body, and it takes time to heal. For women who are breastfeeding, then, an additional problem can be given by the level of estrogens, which can cause an annoying and painful lack of lubrication: in this case it is enough to use a lubricant during intercourse until the body restores itself. However, if after several months any discomfort and pain remain, talk to your doctor. (Read also 14 tips for making the couple survive the arrival of a baby)

7. Is it normal to pee so much during pregnancy?

Yes. First of all because the hormones have "gone crazy", and this has a great influence. Secondly, because there is an increase in blood flow to the pelvis. In any case, you must immediately notify a doctor if urination becomes painful, if you feel burning or itching, or if the smell is very "watery": in these cases an infection could be in progress, or the waters.

8. I have problems with indigestion and intestinal gas, is this normal?

Hormonal changes during pregnancy also have the effect of decreasing the efficiency of the gastrointestinal system. It begins with nausea and bloating, but indigestion and reflux can also occur as the pregnancy continues. Everything is normal. (Read also Pregnancy, your changing body)


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9. What can I do to relieve digestive problems?

For constipation, eat foods rich in fiber, vegetables, fruits and drink plenty. If necessary, says Mary Rosser, you can also take magnesium hydroxide or a laxative. For reflux, on the other hand, it is advisable to eat smaller portions and more frequently, but also to add a pillow. A doctor may also prescribe calcium carbonate preparations. (Nutrition during pregnancy)

10. What if I am sleeping when labor begins?

It is possible not to notice the breaking of the water: in some women the leakage is so slight that it looks like a slight leakage of urine. If in doubt, consult your doctor. But if the contractions start, you are unlikely to stay asleep.

Updated on 30.01.2022

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