Contents
- 1 You can have sex during pregnancy
- 2 When sexual intercourse in pregnancy is prohibited
- 3 Why have sex while pregnant
- 4 Sexual intercourse in pregnancy and psychology
- 5 Sex in pregnancy in the first trimester
- 6 Sex in pregnancy in the second trimester
- 7 Sex in pregnancy in the third trimester
- 8 Sex Positions in Pregnancy
- 9 False Myths About Sex In Pregnancy
Here it is one of the thorniest topics. Yes, because for many women (and men are even more), sex in pregnancy is still a taboo, something that just isn't part of the nine months of waiting. Nothing more wrong. Because, apart from some situations in which intercourse during pregnancy is not recommended or even forbidden, intimacy would never be lost. Indeed, it could be an opportunity to try something new.
You can have sex during pregnancy
The statistics are a bit merciless. It seems that 50 percent of couples stop making love during pregnancy and for many reasons. The first is the fear (common to both) of being able to harm the child. Do we want to dispel this myth once and for all? The chance that pregnancy sex will harm the fetus is virtually nil. In short, you can have sex during pregnancy.
Another problem could be pregnancy disorders. Of course, we understand perfectly well that if you're nauseous, sex is your last thought. Or if you have back pain because your belly is heavy, the very idea of a relationship makes you want to cry. And what about sore breasts even if you just touch them? The range of annoyances is large and varied, but try to make it as less disabling as possible.
The 40 weeks are not all the same and, unless you are really haunted by bad luck, there will be days when you feel better and you can indulge in some healthy and beneficial sex.
When sexual intercourse in pregnancy is prohibited
But let's first see when sexual intercourse during pregnancy is not recommended. Generally, the gynecologist may prohibit them in the event of a threatened miscarriage or previous miscarriages, placenta previa, experience of premature births or if the cervix is shortened or dilated, if there is loss of blood or amniotic fluid, infections in progress in one of the two partners.
If you don't have any of these problems, green light to pregnant sex!
Why have sex while pregnant
Sexual intercourse should be continued for all nine months, first of all so as not to weaken the bond with your partner and also because they give pleasant sensations that can also reach the child. The pelvic muscles receive more blood and therefore the placenta is more oxygenated and the contractions of orgasm strengthen the muscles of the uterus, which thus prepares for labor.
Sexual intercourse in pregnancy and psychology
From a sexual point of view, during pregnancy the couple's relationship undergoes small changes mainly due to the physiological transformations that take place in the woman's body. New hormonal balances occur which fluctuate during the different stages of pregnancy, producing periods of lesser and greater sexual desire. In the first trimester, the woman generally experiences nausea, vomiting, breast soreness, weakness, and all this takes place as part of a process of adaptation to the new condition. During this period there may be a low sexual desire which however will improve in the second and third trimester of pregnancy, in which libido is often significantly accentuated.
Even the partner may experience some fears related to incorrect information that speaks of the possible possibility of damaging the fetus during sexual intercourse. This is not true: the fetus, in fact, is well "cushioned" and protected inside the amniotic sac and is isolated by a mucus plug. For this reason, if there are no specific risk conditions such as those we have seen, there are no particular contraindications.
Certainly the couple experiences a condition of profound change, not only in their personal identity but also, specifically, in that part of the identity linked to their role and social position. For this reason, being able to maintain a sincere and open sexual relationship between the partners also helps and supports a good transition to the parental dimension and a good recovery of the couple's life after the birth of the baby. Some couples, in fact, increase sexual activity for a newfound understanding, which sees in pregnancy a confirmation of the generativity of their union.
Sex in pregnancy in the first trimester
Obviously, intimacy changes over the course of gestation. In the first trimester, the changes your body undergoes and the hormonal storm you are subjected to could cause a physiological decline in sexual desire. Or, however, you may also feel completely disinterested in sex, taken as you are by the novelty of pregnancy. All normal and destined to pass.
Sex in pregnancy in the second trimester
The second trimester is generally the one in which you feel physically better, tiredness and sleepiness are reduced and the desire to make love with your partner also increases. This is certainly the best time for sex in pregnancy, even if the belly volume increases.
Sex in pregnancy in the third trimester
In the third trimester, you will be at work with baby bump management, which will make some positions more difficult and may even make you feel less desirable from your partner, even if it sure is just your feeling. You may also have back pain. Perhaps it is the right time to dedicate yourself to pampering and different attentions. Bed stunts can wait a few more weeks.
You are probably wondering in pregnancy up to what month you can have intercourse. The answer is… until the end! In fact, sex is one of the natural methods for starting labor or at least to try: the sperm in fact contains prostaglandins, substances that can cause contractions.
Sex positions in pregnancy
Well ... here we must necessarily adapt a bit. Because if the sex in the first weeks of pregnancy remains practically the same, as the shapes change and the belly grows, you have to invent something new. Which isn't necessarily bad: experimenting in the bedroom can be fun and bring your partner even more together. We give you just a few ideas, but then you two will find out what makes you feel better.
- Missionary. A classic. The woman is below and the man above. In the early days it can certainly be practicable, but with the belly you may feel less comfortable, too squashed. The alternative? The plow. Try placing yourself with your pelvis towards the edge of the bed and your partner supports you by the legs.
- Table spoon. Here is the solution when the belly becomes bulky. You are lying on your side and the penetration is from behind. It is a relaxing and exciting position at the same time because the partner can also kiss your neck and ears. If it becomes difficult to hold it for a long time, rest your legs on its thighs, so that you are more entangled.
- The compass. Both partners sit on the bed with their legs extended, face to face. Then she climbs on the man, always keeping her legs straight, forming a kind of compass. The baby bump will absolutely not be a hindrance.
- The position of Andromache. This is also convenient in late pregnancy because it allows you not to get tired. She stands on top of him and the man can support her hips so she doesn't get tired.
- Union of the butterfly. The woman is astride her partner and arches backwards, leaning on the side. This position leaves the belly quite free and you can have good control of the relationship.
- Wolf. Both partners are standing. She rests her elbows on the bed and he penetrates her from behind. He can give both of us a lot of pleasure and the belly does not bother. The most classic variant of her sees the woman on all fours (on all fours) with the man always behind her on his knees.
False myths about sex in pregnancy
1- Women have less sexual deso
This is not the case at all! What is true is that there can be many factors that influence the desire to make love. If you suffer from nausea and vomiting, you think of everything except the kamasutra. As well as if you have other ailments, such as severe back pain, or if there are many worries related to pregnancy and / or childbirth. But generalizing that pregnant women do not experience sexual deso because progestin hormone levels drop is wrong. In some cases it is absolutely the opposite: there are many who want more than before. With great pleasure of the partner ...
2- The child can get hurt
This is primarily a male fear. Now, however gifted your partner may be, you can reassure him: there is no risk that your baby will be touched (or "hit"?) By her penis during sexual intercourse. The baby is well protected inside the uterus, which is also closed. One thing is real though: the pleasant sensations that the mother feels also reach the fetus. All the more reason to have sex during pregnancy when she feels like it.
3- Expectant mothers experience less pleasure
If they manage to let themselves go, without thinking about anything, the opposite is true! During pregnancy, the walls of the vagina are supplied with more blood so the orgasm can also be longer and more pleasant. This also happens because the contractions caused by orgasm are perceived more at the uterine level. Do we really have to go into detail to explain that all of this can get overwhelming? It is not needed…
4- The fetus "feels" sexual intercourse
This is also a fairly widespread popular belief, according to which the child is aware of the intercourse. According to this "theory", the little one would be in some way "traumatized" by the event. Let's clarify: having sex during pregnancy does not involve any psychological damage to the baby. On the contrary, the release of endorphins and the consequent feeling of well-being also reach the little one. Hence, it is a pleasure for everyone.
5- Only mothers have a drop in libido
False! Some don't even try it and, in fact, are much more sexually active during pregnancy. While not having hormonal disruptions, there are men for whom sex during pregnancy becomes a taboo. It will be the physical changes of the partner, the anxieties for the future, the acceptance of the new situation, the nervousness and a thousand other reasons, but these men exist. In this case it's up to us to reassure them and talk to them. Dialogue is certainly the first step towards a good sexual understanding. And a woman always knows which are the right spots to touch. Even in words.
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