"Terrible two" and "terrible three": do they really exist?

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Today we will talk about "terrible twos"Or the"terrible 2 years”, A critical phase of the development of the child, but essential for his growth. At this stage, i moods are on the agenda and the word "No.”Becomes the favorite.

Second Garth Johnson, an American dad who writes about Fatherly,

the definition "terrible twos"Is not entirely correct: going towards i 3 years, in fact, the situation becomes far worse . At the age of 3, the child becomes hard to handle: screams and makes scenes for everything, from potty to the baby food. It is difficult for the parent stay calm in these moments: there is a possible nervous breakdown but this does not matter: for "them" it does the same.

Anyone who has children has been through this complicated stage.

La routine repeats itself daily: attitudes insolenti, disobedient, the children they ignore requests di brush your teeth, get dressed, go to the bathroom.. .and so on. We arrive at the plea to then move on to the threat, to the shouted request, but nothing to do. There frustration it's there around the corner, and every morning it's a battle.

Garth believes that the 3-year-old did enjoy saying no, this is evident from the way his eyes sparkle after every whim. And she warns all parents:

"Prepare for the future and do not have false hopes. Furthermore, we need to change this way of saying: not only the 'terrible twos', but we also add the three".

the blogging mom ScaryMommy agrees with this theory and gives us reasons.

Here are some reasons why 3 years are worse than 2.

  • At 2 they hardly speak, at 3 they never shut their mouths
  • At 2 they cry, at 3 they seem possessed by the devil
  • At 2 they are happy to eat everything that is offered to them. At 3 do whims about food
  • At 2, bath time is a matter of ten minutes, resulting in a clean baby. At 3 years old, the bath lasts an hour and results in a soggy bathroom, a wet mom, and 16 used towels.
  • At 2 you change your diaper. At 3 the world revolves around the potty and her bowel movements.

Here's how Susanne Ayers Denham, a developmental psychologist and teacher at George Mason University in Fairfax, Virginia explains the "terrible twos" on Babycenter.com: Two-year-olds are so eager to explore the world that they react negatively when faced with a overly protective attitude on the part of parents. Their identity is being defined and their communication skills are developing and sometimes inadequate for their needs. This causes frustration: children have tantrums, which are often labeled the infamous "terrible twos".

As the child grows, increases his understanding of the world and the baby does new discoveries. For example, start the nursery school and must learn to relate to one new reality, or, if a brother, a feeling of jealousy.

But how to behave in front of whims of children? Here are Susanne Ayers Denham's suggestions.


  1. Don't react with anger and don't scream
  2. Stay calm and try not to take everything too seriously
  3. Encourage your baby to express his feelings
  4. be patient
  5. Try to figure out if something in particular is bothering him, help him solve it
  6. If the aggression persists, consult your pediatrician to rule out other possible causes related to your behavior
Read also: Two years and ... whims! Surviving the "terrible twos" and 20 tips for dealing with tantrums

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