Un child who can't do their homework and who doesn't get coupons votes a school: parents often experience this behavior of their children with great apprehension, but why does it occur? "The first question that mothers and fathers have to ask themselves is this: why is my son not doing well in school, what is the real cause of this situation?" explains child psychologist Serena Costa.
The deep motivations
causes
many
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he is not satisfied with his studies because he does not do well;
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has low self-esteem and thinks he is not capable;
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does not have a good study method;
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bored;
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has emotional problems;
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suffer from learning disabilities.
“It is possible that the child does not like to study, but that he is very good at something else. Lowering expectations for him could even lead to better results "
How to intervene
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«To intervene in the right way is important open a communication channel with your child - continues the psychologist - and ask him what his difficulties are in addressing the study. From there it will be possible to understand if the cause is linked to a learning disability or one emotional problem. In the first case it is good to turn to specialists who can help the child, in the second to encourage him, reassuring him about his abilities ".
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What is important is always to find the right balance: «It is useless and even harmful for parents to do their homework for their children; instead they must find a way to help them, reminding them that they have to study, but understanding together what is the right moment to do so, organizing the space and finding the right study strategies, without however imposing them ».
In this process it is essential that the parents redefine expectations which they project onto their child: «It is possible that their child does not like to study, but that he is very good at something else. Lowering the expectations of him towards him could even make him achieve better results ».
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Mistakes to avoid
In addition to not being too taxing and replacing their child, parents must also avoid being totally disinterested in the question. «They must be close to him, support him, finding together the right way to make the moment of study pleasant, stimulating his autonomy. Better to ask if he had any difficulties at school, how he solved a complex problem for him, what he remembers what he did, rather than going into the merits of the tasks that the teacher will have to evaluate ».
All with theobiettivo to make sure that children find their own organization and method, to better face all the challenges of the school (and not only!).
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